Dear Coleen I’m a woman in my early 40s and have never been married or had children. I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and we got together by having an affair – he’s 10 years older than me and has four children with his ex, ranging in age from 14 to 21. When his wife found out about our affair, she kicked him out and he went to live in a flat, but we now live together. The issue is, he still hasn’t divorced his ex and he also sees her way too much in my opinion, often just popping round to