‘My baby is turning one (or two, or three, or four) in a couple of weeks. I’m planning the party and deciding what kind of cake to make. Do you think it’s okay to let him have some cake?’ This is the kind of question that pops up almost every day in online parenting forums.  It’s also the kind of question that makes me, personally, want to scream.  I try very, very hard not to judge other people’s parenting. Kids don’t come with a manual. Parenting isn’t a competition! Navigating parenthood,