Ask A.J. is Slate’s advice column on addiction, recovery, and how to hate yourself less. Submit a question here . It’s anonymous! Dear A.J., My husband just told me he kind of misses going out to bars and drinking with me. I understood where he was coming from but also, no regrets? I think he’s romanticizing those couple hours together, but not how maybe we felt later (or how I felt). We spend a lot of time apart in the evenings because he’s having drinks outside or in his office by himself and