This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Natalie Chiu, 36, the cofounder of Saicho. Her words have been edited for length and clarity. I've always liked going out for good food, but when wine pairings were involved, I felt second-class because of my alcohol intolerance . I would order juice or a glass of water instead. I felt like I was missing out on a big part of that dining experience. It changed when I met my husband, Charlie. For our first date, we celebrated our birthdays