DEAR ABBY : My father passed away and left me a large sum of money. One of the first things I did was pay off my husband’s debts totaling over $140,000. I also paid off my vehicle. I also paid $600,000 in cash for the home we live in.  For Christmas, I want to give each of my three adult children $10,000 from me and their grandfather. My husband (of one year) asked if I was planning on giving his two adult children the same. I replied no, which was not well received.  His children never even