T here’s an exchange in the new miniseries The Four Seasons that will land with a lot of long-married women. Tina Fey’s Kate and her husband Jack, who’s played by Will Forte, are running late for an obligation, and Jack mentions that he hasn’t eaten all day. An exasperated Kate observes under her breath how nice it would be to be married to an adult who could meet his own needs. It’s a very small moment, but it captures the mood of a lot of women in the have-it-all era: will the caretaking