After Lily Allen and Lindy West shared their poly stories, online discourse is giving polyamory a really bad name. We’re in the middle of a pop-culture “poly” moment, but the headlines and discourse haven’t exactly done polyamory any favors. Online, people are talking about “poly under duress” (PUD), a term used in ethical non-monogamy (ENM) circles to describe situations in which someone reluctantly agrees to polyamory out of pressure to preserve a relationship, rather than from genuine