When the loudest voices shaping young men today are from strangers on the internet, raising sons feels like fighting a tidal wave, says writer Kelvin Kao. SINGAPORE: “Who’s that, Finn?” I asked after glancing at my 13-year-old son’s phone. He shrugged and swiped up. “No idea, just some random YouTuber,” he said, moving on to the next video which happened to be a Coin Master ad. I never got a proper look, but something about the man on screen – the sunglasses, the tone, the posture – made me