Y ou could spend the hours before a date obsessing over your hair, makeup, or outfit. Or you could channel that energy into brainstorming what to ask the stranger you’re splitting a basket of breadsticks with to figure out if you might want to eat dinner together forever. “There's so much disappointment in dating today, and one of my goals is to empower people to remember how much of their dating life is in their control,” says Damona Hoffman, a celebrity dating coach, host of the podcast Dates