"I quit the band. I stopped listening to music and never spoke about it again, except when someone recognized me or I had a slip of the tongue." I am sitting between my two teenage daughters at a Taylor Swift concert. From the outside, it looks like the perfect moment: a mother with her girls at the show of a lifetime, surrounded by screaming fans dressed in costumes from every era of Taylor’s musical journey. But inside, something is wrong. A kind of dread rises in me as I watch the massive