If the first message you get from someone you matched with on a dating app leaves you speechless, hopefully it’s because you’re wowed by their good looks, witticisms, curious mind, and articulate nature. If that sounds painfully naive, welcome to the apps in modern dating culture. The daters Julie Nguyen works with are more likely to be floored by the laziness, spelling errors, and sheer audacity of the people on the other end. “It’s a numbers game, so it’s really easy to just be like, ‘OK, I’m