Dear Coleen I’m a man in my early 40s and, sadly, my wife has a chronic autoimmune condition. She has good spells, but then has flare-ups where she’s bedridden and it can last for weeks. It’s been tough on our relationship – we haven’t had sex in a long time – and the sole focus is her health and keeping on top of everything at home, as we also have a 10-year-old daughter. It’s been a very stressful few years for me, as I’m caring for both my wife and my daughter, while trying to work full time.