W hen our son Sam was six years old, he was assaulted in the boy’s bathroom at school. Sam was wearing khaki pants and a grey Star Wars t-shirt, but had long hair and was wearing his favorite pink Crocs. Another student looked at Sam, decided Sam was a girl, and began to scream at and kick Sam. It wasn’t just at school that Sam had problems in the bathroom. We couldn’t safely send Sam by himself into any public bathroom. At playgrounds and zoos, in airports and restaurants, other kids—and often