My family was never American; we were New Yorkers. My great-grandparents came from the old country to the Lower East Side as children; they moved to Harlem and the Bronx, where they raised my grandparents.My grandparents married and moved to Great Neck, which was not yet a Jewish suburb, where my father was born and raised. And then, in their 20s, my parents moved back into the city, to the Upper West Side, in the late 1960s, where I was born and raised a few years later. Until the age of 46, I'