“At the time, it sounded like a quirky theory. Twelve years later, it’s become the way I understand marriage.” Before my husband and I were even a couple, he once asked me what I’d do if I ever really liked someone. I wasn’t known for liking people very much, but I’d thought about it enough to answer. “I’d get married,” I texted. “That’s pretty traditional for a nontraditional girl,” he wrote back. “Well,” I replied, “I don’t believe in sitting on the fence. And I definitely don’t need a