This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Maneesha Panja, a 30-year-old product leader at a small startup living in Brooklyn, New York. This story has been edited for length and clarity. I grew up in the '90s and early 2000s. Many of my early memories of technology are associated with discovery and delight. I remember getting my first iPod — that was such a big deal for me. As I got older, my relationship with technology grew more complex. At first, social media was great because I