Couples ask each other countless questions over the course of a day, a year, an entire relationship. Many are trivial: Chinese or Thai for dinner? Need anything from the store? Few probe how each person is actually feeling. Yet taking the time to ask thoughtful, intentional questions can deepen connection. Laura Todd, a therapist in Silicon Valley, thinks of relationships as vines that either grow together or apart; the goal is for them to intertwine so they become stronger and fuller. “Just