Melissa Auf der Maur joined Hole in the summer of 1994, during the darkest time for the band. Courtney Love ‘s husband, Nirvana frontman Kurt Cobain, died by suicide that spring; Hole bassist Kristen Pfaff died of a heroin overdose shortly after. Auf der Maur’s friend Billy Corgan recommended her to Love to replace Pfaff, and she declined. “I don’t really connect with the music,” she writes in her upcoming book Even the Good Girls Will Cry: A 90s Rock Memoir . “And then there’s the shitty pain