It is a truth universally acknowledged that everybody hates you when you are 23. (Doubters, please consult Blink-182's "What's My Age Again?" ) However, if you are a military member retiring after 20+ years of service, you might suspect that nobody likes you when you are 43 or 53, either. Why? Because at these two stages of your life, you only understand enough about civilian work to be dangerous and dissatisfied -- and you don't even know it. Confused about what employers do want from veteran