DEAR ABBY: My late husband was ill for six years. He experienced some dementia . He wasn’t able to work, and our life together changed a lot. I focused on supporting him through his decline until he eventually ended his own life.  After his death, I discovered several secrets. He hadn’t been honest about his medical condition, possibly out of shame or because he wanted to protect us from the seriousness. There were also secrets about his family he may have been ashamed about. He also changed