Dear Coleen I’m a young gay man and, a few months back, a guy messaged on a dating app out of the blue. I couldn’t believe how hot he was. We swapped phone details and chatted for hours every day. He said the nicest things and I fell for him. It was too good to be true, but it also felt like the best thing that had ever happened to me. He’d send me amazing photos of himself, which would make me feel fuzzy inside, even though I still couldn’t believe a guy so hot would like a shy person like me.