You probably have a mental list of friends who have annoyed you over the years: the flake, the one-upper, the one who treats you like a free therapist . But somewhere out there, you’re on someone else’s list. It’s a hard thing to wrap your head around, partly because your friends will almost never tell you. “We generally have a bias toward being self-serving,” says Andrea Bonior, a clinical psychologist in Washington, D.C., and author of The Friendship Fix . “We give ourselves the benefit of