Neither my husband nor I had tantrums. Grady is of the boomer generation and grew up in the Smoky Mountains. Being tough was a prerequisite for survival, respect for authority started young, and everybody in town could impose it. I grew up in New York City in the 1980s. Tantrums weren't in my nature. So, despite my husband's previous experience taking parenting classes as a single dad decades ago, and my 30 years of teaching ages 5 and up, our daughter Violet's terrible-tweens rocked us. Violet'