Dear Coleen I’m a married man in my 30s with two children aged three and five, and I would like your opinion on whether I should speak to my wife about some things she said about me to her friends. First of all, I saw a WhatsApp exchange between my wife and her best friend, which she’d left open on a shared laptop. My wife was asking her friend what she ought to do about me, going on to say I was driving her insane and that I was boring and unambitious. I felt upset and betrayed, but I didn’t