This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Clarke Byard , cofounder of The Byard Family Legacy Fund . It has been edited for length and clarity. Kevin was the new kid when we met in 10th grade. I was busy dancing; he was busy joining the football team. Eventually, our circles overlapped, and we started dating . By 11th grade, however, I dumped him. He wanted to do football camps all summer instead of hanging out with me. But by senior year, we got back together, and the rest is