This has happened to many of us: You start a new relationship, and you feel like you have to act indifferently towards the other person because you don't want to seem insecure or clingy. You might fear that if you share an anxiety about a mismatched communication style, or try to figure out where you stand before the three-month mark, the romance will be over before it starts. But as a clinical psychologist with 10 years of experience, I tell my clients that asking for reassurance isn't the