While he understands that this is perhaps his parents' way of showing love, he had to explain that these objects were their memories, not his. If they gave him things he didn't want, he finally said, he'd refuse them. That knickknack his mom sent would go right back in the mail to her. The family made a rule: The only gifts allowed are ones that can be eaten or consumed. Terrazas' parents abide by it "for the most part," he says, but "sometimes they need a reminder." Terrazas is not alone: the