This as-told-to essay is based on a conversation with Luisa Zhou . It has been edited for length and clarity. My parents raised me to get good grades, go to a good college, and get a good job. They were entirely focused on security because they didn't want my sister and me to experience the hardships that they had as immigrants . They encouraged me not to take risks — just keep my head down, work hard, and appreciate what I had. The day I got into Princeton , I thought, "Thank goodness. I'm