"Over the years, I’ve played that scene in my head again and again." I can still see myself sitting on the floor of my 3-year old daughter’s room and helping her play dress up. She’s wearing her favorite outfit ― a cat leotard with kitty ears ― but wants my help to change into the magical butterfly with a wand. Before I can slip on the butterfly’s sparkly wings, she decides the outfit doesn’t work. Then comes the line that will haunt me for years to come. “Can I be a boy?” She stared at me