The biggest lesson Dr Xander Ong learned after becoming a first-time father in 2023 was that caring for his children is not a task to complete, but a relationship to build. When my first child was born in 2023, I was over the moon. I was also completely lost. As an expectant father, I prepared for childbirth by learning how to support my wife during her pregnancy and labour. I knew what to say and the small things that might bring her comfort – though how well I did is another matter.  Yet,