F or the past year, my husband David has been on parental leave with our second baby. We live in Canada, and he took the full 61 weeks available to him. When our first child was born in 2017, David returned to work the next day (we were foster parents). Over the past year, I’ve had three books come out, so David has been the primary caregiver for both of our kids. This division of household labor has reinforced a longstanding insecurity I have as a disabled mother: that I’m not seen as a real