For a long time, I thought I was doing what parents are supposed to do. Whenever one of my sons was struggling with school or feeling discouraged about not mastering a new skill, I'd reach into my personal archive of accomplishments for a helpful story. I'd tell them about getting inducted into the National Junior Honor Society. I'd mention becoming editor of the school newspaper. I'd share examples of goals I'd worked hard for and eventually achieved. In my mind, these stories were encouraging,